Trusting Yourself

May 1, 2004
Everyone feels overwhelmed by life's increasingly dizzying whirlwind, believes Ryan: we all worry that we can't keep up with our to-do lists or avoid the messages from media and advertising telling us that our homes aren't fancy enough, our teeth aren't white enough, or our parenting skills aren't good enough. It's no wonder, she says, that many people today turn outward for help, seeking advice from friends, the Internet, talk show experts--anyone who will help them keep up with the world around them. However, the real problem is not that people are inadequate, says Ryan, but that"we seem to have lost the sense of ourselves as reliable sources of the wisdom we need to navigate through our lives." Instead of looking to others, she says, people in fact have the power to help themselves--simply by trusting themselves. Ryan (The Power of Patience) instructs readers how to learn the attitudes and behaviors that encourage self-trust and lead toward a happier, more peaceful life. In a cozy, inviting style, she draws readers into her asset-focused approach with friendly advice, anecdotes and exercises. By focusing on what is right and strengthening that quality, we will, she promises, find that life is more fulfilling; we can learn to realize our talents and accept our shortcomings. For worry-freaks, perfectionists, those who just can't say"no," or those stuck in stale careers or unhealthy relationships, the book is particularly refreshing. Ryan is neither overbearing nor preachy, but instead allows readers to make their own connections to her words.